I’ve found myself there, married with a newborn baby and saved by the grace of God. I would ask my husband to attend church with me, and he would reluctantly come, sometimes. We would fight about it, about everything really. It was not pretty. Sin and brokenness were suddenly magnified everywhere, and I couldn’t talk about it with the person that is supposed to be closest to me. It was discouraging, to say the least. Sister, if you are in that same position, here are some of the things I needed to know.

In 1 Corinthians 7:12-14, Paul says that we should not divorce our spouses just because they are not believers. Even though you fight about everything, cannot agree on anything, and see no hope in the future, divorce will not make things better.

So what should you do?

Don’t Hide.

Don’t feel that you can’t worship, pray, talk about, or give thanks to God in front of your husband. God made us and this world for his glory. He will get it, and you get to be a part of that. Allow yourself to continue to grow in God’s truth, knowledge, love, and grace.

Don’t Condemn.

You’re right. Your husband doesn’t understand. He is a sinner, just like you. He will not want to join you at church if you are telling him everything that he is doing wrong. Instead, repent of your sins in front of him. Show him grace and love him in his brokenness. When you remind yourself of the grace that God gives you daily, it will overflow to your husband.

Trust in His Promises.

Read your Bible and remind yourself of God’s promises. He will give you strength. He will not leave your side. You are justified by him, and he will sanctify you. Assume that he will do the same for your husband.

Don’t Give Up.

Surround yourself with other women who are Christians. Allow them to pray for you and your husband and to guide you, help you, and support you. When you become a believer, you become part of the body of Christ, so allow that body to work in your life. If you do not have that, seek it. Find a home church where you believe in what they are doing, and get plugged in.

Tia Harwood

Tia Harwood

Tia Harwood is the children's ministry director for Valley Life | Tramonto.