An Exercise to Grow Your Wife's Trust

Believe Your Wife: An Exercise to Better Your Marriage

Most married men just do what comes easy, natural, and whatever others are doing. However, I’m going to ask you to deny yourself, prize your spouse, and enjoy the fruit that grows as a result. Receive and Believe I do this with my wife Brooke about 5-6 nights a week. Make her comfortable. Give her a … Continued

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20 Questions for Guys Pursuing Marriage

20 Questions for Guys Pursuing Marriage

It’s easy to start moving toward marriage without asking the right questions. But are you really ready? This should help you decide. Ask yourself these questions, or better yet, walk through them with a man whose marriage you admire. These are 20 questions for guys pursuing marriage: Do you have a job? Part-time or full-time? … Continued

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How to Become a Bible Reading Family

How to Become a Bible Reading Family

Early this morning I was drinking coffee and reading the first five chapters of Psalms, since it is the first day of the month. I noticed Brooke was drinking coffee and looking at her phone. Then and there I made a decision. It’s a decision that earlier in our marriage I have been scared to … Continued

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How to Understand the Difference Between Husbands and Wives

Hard to Understand: Recognizing Your Wife’s Differences

We have very few important items in our home. We try to be pretty low maintenance people, especially when it comes to things. We’re church planters, missionaries who have invested everything we have in people, relationships, and church. However, while unpacking after our most recent move, I reflected on one piece of crystal that means … Continued

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Our Top 5 Posts So Far

Our Top 5 Posts So Far

As we close out our first five months of writing about making disciples and planting churches, I thought it would be only fitting to revisit the top five posts we have had so far. If you haven’t read them yet, by all means, take the opportunity to do so now. If you’ve already read them once … Continued

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Reflections on My 21st Anniversary: How Wives Are Made

Upon reflection, marrying a beautiful woman isn’t that hard. I was an underemployed, college dropout when Brooke married me. We later found out that someone literally planned to interrupt the ceremony when the pastor asked: “If anyone has a reason for these two not to wed, speak now or forever hold your peace.” When I … Continued

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Balancing the Roles of Parent and Spouse

Balancing the Roles of Parent and Spouse

If you really want to be the best parent you can be, make your marriage your priority. Soon, Brooke and I will be like those couples who’ve been together longer than they were apart. We were married at 22 and are thrilled to be in a thriving 21-year marriage. That means I was with Brooke … Continued

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Marriage Dating Singleness

5 Ways to Prepare for Marriage as a Single Person

Dating: there’s so much bad advice out there these days. So, when it comes to dating, how do we get it right? How do we prepare for our future marriage? First off, let me confess something: this is not about how to get a date. That’s easy—just lower your standards. Make them low enough, and you … Continued

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Questions About Sex

9 Questions for Spouses About Sex

The pastors of all the Valley Life Churches asked me to put together a few questions for married couples to work through after the “Married Nights” sermon from our current sermon series, Better Together. I’m thankful for the help of my wife, Brooke, in putting these together. We recognize that what you hear on Sunday … Continued

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3 Healing Steps for the Toxic Marriage

A lady put salt in her coffee. Or at least that’s the way the story goes. Not on purpose, mind you, but intending to sweeten her morning drink, she destroyed it. The lady, Mrs. Peterkin, rallied her family for help. They turned to a chemist who conducted experiments to remove the salt from the coffee and … Continued

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