When Your Husband Does Not Believe

I’ve found myself there, married with a newborn baby and saved by the grace of God. I would ask my husband to attend church with me, and he would reluctantly come, sometimes. We would fight about it, about everything really. It was not pretty. Sin and brokenness were suddenly magnified everywhere, and I couldn’t talk … Continued

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An Exercise to Grow Your Wife's Trust

Believe Your Wife: An Exercise to Better Your Marriage

Most married men just do what comes easy, natural, and whatever others are doing. However, I’m going to ask you to deny yourself, prize your spouse, and enjoy the fruit that grows as a result. Receive and Believe I do this with my wife Brooke about 5-6 nights a week. Make her comfortable. Give her a … Continued

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Why Cross-Generational Community Groups Are So Important

Why Cross-Generational Community Groups Are So Important

Six years ago my wife Reagan and I were living in North Carolina while I attended seminary. We were in a great church. We had good jobs (for struggling newly-weds) and loved living out on our own for the first time in our lives. But, in a matter of twenty-four hours, our joy became sorrow. … Continued

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Pursue Your Friends Intentionally

Pursue Your Friends Intentionally

Sometimes Jesus has you in the right place at the right time. Sometimes he lets you be in the delivery room, like recently at one of our Newcomers Dessert nights. A lady had expressed on her connect card that she wanted to be baptized. She inquired that night as well, and I asked if we … Continued

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What Kind of Disciples Are You Making?

What Kind of Disciples Are You Making?

I’ve been a part of the Church for as long as I have memories. I’ve been a Christian for nearly 30 years. And I’ve been a pastor for 14 years. A common thread through all of my experiences with churches is the importance of emphasis. When it comes to discipleship, I’ve noticed three types of … Continued

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3 Ways to Grow in Your Biblical Competency

3 Ways to Grow in Your Biblical Competency

One of the exciting developments at Valley Life | Tramonto is that we have leaders who aspire to be elders. Before sitting down with them, our current elders outlined three aspects of qualification that we hold to be essential in potential elders: character, compatibility, and competency. In our first informational meeting, they covered these qualifications … Continued

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20 Questions for Guys Pursuing Marriage

20 Questions for Guys Pursuing Marriage

It’s easy to start moving toward marriage without asking the right questions. But are you really ready? This should help you decide. Ask yourself these questions, or better yet, walk through them with a man whose marriage you admire. These are 20 questions for guys pursuing marriage: Do you have a job? Part-time or full-time? … Continued

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Why We Value Brokenness

Why We Value Brokenness

The Christmas season was in full swing, and I was in a hurry. Not only because there were a million and one things to get done before the big day but because, on this particular day, we had been invited to a child’s birthday party. Moreover, I had put off purchasing a present until the … Continued

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I Did Not Invite Her

Why My Friend Didn’t Come to Church

Every week, I hear stories about what is happening around Valley Life Church. I know that you want to invite someone—maybe several people—to the Christmas Eve service at Tramonto, Surprise, or Arrowhead. And I know you are probably a little nervous to take that step, maybe even scared. So, when I heard this story about … Continued

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Sexual Assault, Jesus, and Me

Sexual Harassment, Jesus, and Me

I was a freshman at a Christian university in South Carolina. He was the head of security for that university. He paid me $50 a week to take part in an exercise program, and he monitored the results, observing my technique, measuring growth, and checking muscle tone. He told me it was for his doctoral program … Continued

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