What to Ask Your Friend

How to Share the Gospel with Your Friend

It’s an exciting time to be a part of Valley Life Church. New service times, jam-packed services, baptisms almost every week this summer. But I’ll let you in on the real action going on in our church. People are talking about telling their friends about Jesus. I’ve heard it several times in the last two … Continued

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Why You Should Put Your Kids in Kids Ministry

On Sunday mornings at church, all parents have a choice. You can put your child in a classroom, or you can take them with you into service. As a parent, I understand the reasoning that we can tell ourselves. Will I know who the volunteers in the class are? My child says they don’t want … Continued

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Dating Your Spouse

“Did you date your spouse?” This question stares back at me each week as I fill out my staff meeting agenda. We have decided as a church staff that it is a priority. We know we should not sacrifice our marriages on the altar of ministry, work, or anything else. So, did my wife and … Continued

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When Your Husband Does Not Believe

I’ve found myself there, married with a newborn baby and saved by the grace of God. I would ask my husband to attend church with me, and he would reluctantly come, sometimes. We would fight about it, about everything really. It was not pretty. Sin and brokenness were suddenly magnified everywhere, and I couldn’t talk … Continued

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An Exercise to Grow Your Wife's Trust

Believe Your Wife: An Exercise to Better Your Marriage

Most married men just do what comes easy, natural, and whatever others are doing. However, I’m going to ask you to deny yourself, prize your spouse, and enjoy the fruit that grows as a result. Receive and Believe I do this with my wife Brooke about 5-6 nights a week. Make her comfortable. Give her a … Continued

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Why Cross-Generational Community Groups Are So Important

Why Cross-Generational Community Groups Are So Important

Six years ago my wife Reagan and I were living in North Carolina while I attended seminary. We were in a great church. We had good jobs (for struggling newly-weds) and loved living out on our own for the first time in our lives. But, in a matter of twenty-four hours, our joy became sorrow. … Continued

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Pursue Your Friends Intentionally

Pursue Your Friends Intentionally

Sometimes Jesus has you in the right place at the right time. Sometimes he lets you be in the delivery room, like recently at one of our Newcomers Dessert nights. A lady had expressed on her connect card that she wanted to be baptized. She inquired that night as well, and I asked if we … Continued

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What Kind of Disciples Are You Making?

What Kind of Disciples Are You Making?

I’ve been a part of the Church for as long as I have memories. I’ve been a Christian for nearly 30 years. And I’ve been a pastor for 14 years. A common thread through all of my experiences with churches is the importance of emphasis. When it comes to discipleship, I’ve noticed three types of … Continued

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3 Ways to Grow in Your Biblical Competency

3 Ways to Grow in Your Biblical Competency

One of the exciting developments at Valley Life | Tramonto is that we have leaders who aspire to be elders. Before sitting down with them, our current elders outlined three aspects of qualification that we hold to be essential in potential elders: character, compatibility, and competency. In our first informational meeting, they covered these qualifications … Continued

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20 Questions for Guys Pursuing Marriage

20 Questions for Guys Pursuing Marriage

It’s easy to start moving toward marriage without asking the right questions. But are you really ready? This should help you decide. Ask yourself these questions, or better yet, walk through them with a man whose marriage you admire. These are 20 questions for guys pursuing marriage: Do you have a job? Part-time or full-time? … Continued

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