I’ve learned something about growing as a leader, and I always enjoy sharing things that I have learned. When you want to get better at something—anything—force yourself to be around people that already are better.

Struggling to be kind in your relationships? Spend time around very kind people. Aware that you’re not the kind of parent you want to be? Hang out with parents who excel. Let’s be honest, some do.

Do you want to be better at leading your church and the teams within it? This is the area I found myself needing to grow in. In order to do so, I needed to put myself in close proximity to people who were doing what I wanted to do.

Learning to Lead

I had come to a leadership lull as pastor at Valley Life Church. I decided that I had implemented all that I know, and the best way forward was to simply grow. My first step took a lot of courage. I admitted to my assistant that I was not the caliber of leader that I wanted to be (which was no surprise to her), and asked her to help me be around people that would really stretch me.

Growth is hard, and I wanted a model. I decided to force myself to be around people that weren’t already in my circle. That meant some awkward meetings with men I had admired from afar and even paying for a leadership coach.

Is It Worth the Work?

You’ll find that it’s not that hard to find people who excel at things that you do not. You’re likely noticing them regularly. You’ll find that it’s not very difficult to get closer to people who you want to emulate. That’s part of what makes people like that admirable; they’re often selfless and interested in others.

You’ll soon discover why you aren’t where you want to be yet. You’re already doing what you want to do. This will be an exercise in doing what you don’t want to do. You’ll decide if it’s really important to you to change. It very well may not be worth the trouble to grow, but it was worth it for me and continues a fruitful pursuit.

Brian Bowman

Brian Bowman

Brian Bowman is the pastor of Valley Life | Tramonto, the first Valley Life Church planted in 2012. He planted his first NAMB church in 2004 in Portland, OR. Brian also writes for the Send Network Blog and Acts 29.